When Respect Slips, So Does the Culture: A Reflection on Community, Conduct, and the Future of Car Meets

A Car Enthusiasts Shout Out

At Selfvation, we’ve built more than just a car community—we’ve built a movement centered on unity, mental health, local business support, and family. That kind of culture doesn’t happen by accident. It’s created by people who care enough to do things differently. And recently, one of our members tried to do exactly that.

Ashley, a dedicated member of the Selfvation community, partnered with a local business to host a family-oriented car meet. Her vision was simple and admirable: bring people together, celebrate car culture, and give her kids—and others—a chance to enjoy the community in a fun, safe environment.

What unfolded, however, was a reminder of the challenges we still face.

Despite the planning, the intention, and the collaboration with a legitimate business, the meet was marred by disrespectful behavior. Burnouts. Two-stepping. Loud, aggressive actions that went directly against what Ashley was trying to create. While we may not always be able to control the actions of every attendee, the consequences of those actions fall on the shoulders of the hosts—and that’s not okay.

The Damage Done

Let’s be clear: this wasn’t just a noisy moment. This was a violation of trust. It disrupted a local business that offered space for the community. It disrespected a fellow member who opened the door for others. And most importantly, it set a dangerous precedent that, if unchecked, can ruin what makes Selfvation different from every other car group.

Ashley didn’t just host a meet—she invested herself in the community’s future. She’s one of the people trying to build the foundation for something great. And for her effort to be overshadowed by recklessness is unacceptable.

Where We Stand

Selfvation has always strived to be a higher standard in the car world. Not perfect—but purposeful.

We don’t tolerate actions that put others at risk or undermine the credibility of the events we support. We’re not just here for rev battles and social media clips. We’re here to build something sustainable—something that respects people’s time, families, businesses, and property.

That’s why we differentiate our events and platforms:

• The Selfvation Website Calendar showcases officially sanctioned events—the ones that have been vetted and align with our core values.

• The Selfvation Facebook Page includes community-supported car meets, hosted by pages or clubs in our ecosystem who share our vision.

• The Selfvation Group Chat is where you’ll often see unsanctioned or pop-up meetsposted. These events are often member-led and spontaneous, and while many are well-intentioned, they do not carry Selfvation’s endorsement unless otherwise noted.

This tiered system is in place to protect both the community and those who try to give back to it.

For the Hosts—and the Helpers

If you’re someone who wants to throw a meet, partner with a business, or create something under the Selfvation name or with our support, know this:

We support you. We see you. And we want you to succeed.

But success only happens when the community respects your work. And that respect must be mutual—from organizers, from attendees, and from the bystanders who witness disrespect and stay silent.

If someone is endangering others, speaking up is not being “dramatic.” It’s leadership. And Selfvation isn’t built by followers—it’s built by leaders at every level.

To Ashley—And Others Like Her

Ashley, your effort meant something. You gave your time, your name, and your trust to this community. That takes courage and heart. What happened at your meet was disappointing, but it doesn’t define your value or erase what you tried to do.

It reinforces just how much we need people like you. People who are still willing to try, despite the noise. And as a community, we owe it to you—and to ourselves—to be better next time.

You’re still a part of this. You’re still welcome to promote your meets. And you still have our respect.

What Happens Next?

Moving forward, Selfvation will continue refining how we support and promote events. That includes:

• Offering more clarity about which events are officially supported

• Encouraging hosts to communicate expectations more clearly before events

• Providing direct support to those who partner with local businesses

• Taking public stands when community values are violated

But this isn’t just a leadership issue. It’s a community issue. If we want Selfvation to keep growing into something meaningful—an indoor space, a national platform, a culture our kids can inherit—then we have to treat it like it’s already worth protecting.

Because it is.

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Let’s not let one bad night define the future. Let’s use it to shape a better one.

If you’re ready to build something real, we’re with you.

—Team